• ALQ@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I’d gush about how envious I am of the setup and demand a tour of everything. I’ve wanted one of those sex chair/chaise things for years.

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    Ask if we can race HotWheels down his sex chair. It’s practically begging for matchbox car races. :3

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    Discuss there intentions and if they plan on using any of it for more *than vibes, agree on a safeword or go home.

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      Yeah, I’m very into all of this, but if it’s a total surprise, that’s a bad sign for their communication skills and awareness of consent. I don’t know how other people do it, but it’s always seemed like a struggle between what I want and what I need in order to relax enough to enjoy what I want. There’s some trauma involved, which might be why I got so skittish when people were kink forward - but I also just need to know and trust someone pretty well in order to be able to give them that much control over me. I went on a date with someone who co-owned a company that did shibari instruction events, but I was so freaked out about it that I didn’t even address it and kept the conversation on very non-date topics (he’d been part of an FFM throuple with similarly aged kids from each of the women involved that dissolved amicably and their divorce settlement included an agreement for three party coparenting for both children together. Super interesting to talk about and a terrible way to flirt with someone).

      My husband’s dating profile had one line mentioning that he was a rigger, and at the end of our first date, he asked if I knew what it meant, but otherwise didn’t want to talk much about it unless/until we actually entered a relationship. I had been triangulating with kink for a while by just dating people who happily dmed for ttrpgs with friends, because I figured they were at least comfortable being in control of and responsible for the rules and enjoyability of a limited social interaction, while still maintaining friendships with the people they’re engaging with, so my husband was a breath of fresh air (he’s also a spectacular dm, for the record, lol).

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        Dating DMs in hopes that they are into domming is certainly a strategy! Genuinely happy that it seems to have worked for you, though.

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        Boots are hot and all. But if you are wearing your outside boots/shoes all over the house then you are an asshole. They Fuck up your floors and makes everything dirty. Even if there isn’t visible mud we walk through all sorts of nasty stuff and not even know about it.

        You want fuck me boots? Don’t wear them outside. Or at least clean them well before walking around inside.

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          If the boots were made for walkin’, your floor will be ok; it’s the boots made for workin’ you have to watch out for

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            Pebbles and rock get stuck into the tread and scratch up hard wood floors. Even without that it’s a lot more wear and tear on your floor not to mention the dirt.

            If you wear shoes at home you where not raised right. If you HAVE to have something on your feet get some house shoes or slippers

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    I’m way more opposed to the him than the furniture. Give me a femme bitch top with that setup and I’m only ever going home because I love my wife