Hello.

So, I’m kind of a late bloomer trans dude. Though I was 15 when I started to experience dysphoria and such, I spent all of highschool in “girlmode” and graduated a woman.

I used to, as a nickname even IRL, go by my former online name “Angelica”. However, Angelica isn’t a very masculine name and you won’t get very “manly” vibes from it. I’m looking for stuff maybe similar to Angelica or fit my vibe of “cutesy”, “femboy”, etc. Maybe names that symbolize kindness or good/light.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    19·
    2 days ago

    Angel/Angelo are some really low hanging fruit.

    There’s archangel names. Gabriel is a kinda twinky old fashioned man name and you can go by Gabe when you really need to hammer in the man aspect. Michael is so generic it hurts, a Mike could be any kind of guy. And if you wanted to make it extra you could make it Michaelangelo, who was a queer icon. Raphael is also on the list and doesn’t have much more to say about it. Uriel if you want a really trans name, but it may not always be read as masc.

    You could also go for saint names.

    Remember any name you take can and will be used against you in the hiring process, so names that are read as normal for a cis guy in your culture may be beneficial. Nobody ever had their resume thrown out for being named Mike.

      • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
        6·
        1 day ago

        Yeah a lot of trans people go for really cool names and that’s awesome but when you choose your own name it’s wise to remember the advice given to parents about their kids’ names. Yeah it’s badass and hilarious if a woman names herself Ebony Darkness Dementia Raven Way (no relation of course), or Margaret Killjoy, but Ms Killjoy is able to get away with it because she’s an anarchist theorist and entertainer. A trans guy naming himself Lucifer Eveningstar is going to really struggle to get jobs. Hell, making a conscious choice about names that are read as “ethnic” is also valuable. Like, it’s not my place as a white lady, but I have a very normal female name and a male dominated career and women in my career talk about whether or not you should use an androgynous nickname on your resume (you get more interviews but they’re with people who wouldn’t have given you an interview if they knew you’re a woman).

        If OP looks like he’s anglo or germanic, the name Angel/Angelo will likely occasionally get him questions on if he’s Italian or Latino if he ever passes for cis. If he takes the name Uriel people will think that that’s odd (but I’ve met a cis dude named Zebulon so it’s not like weird names are auto clocking). Gabriel could easily just be a name his parents liked or a grandpa or something, it’s uncommon but normal (where I’m from). Michaelangelo is very easy to brush away by professionally going by Mike and people will assume his parents are art lovers.

        • cheloxin@lemmy.ml
          1·
          3 hours ago

          Zeb (i assume it could be short for Zebulon) is a more common name than I ever expected. I’ve known about 3 different people named Zeb in about 40 years.

        • Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world
          2·
          24 hours ago

          This is actually something I’ve run into in my day to day. I changed my full name when I got married because I’ve hated my name for my whole life. My old name was very cute and very white, and I frequently got questions about the beloved children’s show I was named after. It made being a working adult pretty hard. What I didn’t expect was that my new name is heavily assumed to be Latino. I was going for the Italian poet but a few people have been confused to find an absolute honky in the interview.

  • artifex@piefed.socialEnglish
    17·
    2 days ago

    I’m from a very Italian neighborhood. Angelo is a common name, if you’re feeling a bit ethnic and don’t want to stray too far from what you grew up with. Plus you’d get to learn all the hand gestures.

  • whaleross@lemmy.world
    13·
    2 days ago

    Hmm… Masculine.

    Mustafa the Brute.

    Hmm… Cutesy femboy.

    Mustafa the Fabulous Twink Brute.

  • Apeman42@lemmy.worldEnglish
    14·
    2 days ago

    I mean, Angel can be a man’s name. Ask David Boreanez. It’s close to what you had if you dig that, and fits the described vibe imo.

  • Concetta@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    8·
    2 days ago

    Glad to see you like Angelo, was going to add I feel like I’ve seen the name Angel used in movies on lots of gangsters. Idk it just doesn’t give fem vibes personally.

  • fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works
    8·
    2 days ago

    Ive always liked Andy. Litterally means masculine but has never felt heavy handed. Also while manly men it is also an accepted unisex name

  • ethaver@kbin.earth
    4·
    1 day ago

    one of the advanced search options on Behind the Name is “community impression.” you can also search by language of origin, languages that commonly use it currently, etc, and, of course, by gender. I picked five and polled my friends and there was a clear winner.