I wanted to open discussion about how you relate to it (to those who relate) and how many of you feel identified with it.
I am a transfem who has been transitioning for 3 years and lately I have felt this term pretty close, specially after discovering it from a close person who identifies with it.
It seems other people use it as well and that is why I want to ask here.
Hiii!
I’m a trans femme that has been transitioning for less than 2 years. Even though at first I thought about myself in a binary way, after some months, talking to other transfems and some introspection, I realized I didn’t quite feel as feminine as I thought, maybe feeling demigirl at most.
Later on, before my first year transitioning, some positive events made me prioritize nonbinary pronouns when presenting myself from then on. I didn’t use nonbinary pronouns for myself a lot yet though and was treating myself in feminine most of the time, but a close person made me realize I liked them being used for me more than the feminine ones so I’ve been slowly using them more and more :)
Then my partners, realizing I was referring to myself more and more in an enby way, began using the term ‘femby’ out of nowhere, which I liked a lot and was a label I really felt identified with, and some more introspection made me realize I had some fluidity in my gender as well, so I now identify as genderdoe.
That’s mostly about it! I’m still kind of exploring where I’m going and things might change, but this term seems pretty relatable to me overall.
Cute word. I don’t know if I can contribute to the discussion, since it’s the first time I’m hearing it.
Or maybe, I guess, I like how it’s kind of a creative wordplay, as a word, which echoes the “not-a-neat-box” spirit of queerness. It’s less a defined identity, and more an abstract descriptor.
So yeah, it sounds cool. If someone said, “dunno what I am, I guess a femby”, I’d thing they’re cool.
My identity is close to that, and I’ve heard of many many amab enbies looking for such a term, such an idea.
hi! okay, so, this is my first exposure to this term, but as someone who just realized they’re maybe binary trans after (7?) years of seeing themself as non-binary, this sorta resonates with me. they/them is still my comfiest set of pronouns. at the same time, i’ve discovered that being viewed as binary female is also quite affirming. i’m not really sure what i am at this point. neither feels completely “right”.
i’m kinda iffy about hrt. i’m really interested in most of the effects, but not sure how i feel about having breasts. i’m certain transfem is what i am, but kinda 50/50 on whether i still identify as enby. part of me feels like i’m clinging to it out of uncertainty. or maybe i should just adopt femby. not sure if this is helpful or even makes much sense. let me know if you’d like me to elaborate on something.
what about you?
