I say I am 8. Perhaps one could get used to it by practice. But I made bad experiences and constantly afraid of personal attacks based on ultra-quick judgment.
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Spot on.
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theyre just people, with possibly very shitty opinions. your issue is weighting their opinions disproportionately to your relationship with them (none).
if youre happy with yourself, other peoples attacks hold no power.
also, i like to keep the old quote in mind ‘be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.’ as it helps maintain perspective when speaking to people who could react negatively.
Yeah, and attacks rarely get physical I guess, but somehow that always weights in the back of my mind as well.
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Who gives a shit? They’re probably more afraid of me than I am of them.
They’re stuck here with ME.
I subscribe to that logic, but im still at a 6 or 7. I had serious anxiety problems a long time ago and im still on the nervous side, though its nowhere near as crippling as it was.
Trouble is im built like Desperate Dan, and if its sunny ill catch my own reflection in shop windows and shit myself because “Holy jesus he looks mean and he’s so close and… its me isnt it…”
Like a 2. Not that I’m not nervous talking to strangers, but I’m also nervous talking to anyone.
Depends what kind of talking. I’d rather chat lightly with a total stranger (I’ll help you find what you’re looking for in the grocery store for instance) than get into long deep conversations with family or friends who can bring up deeply personal uncomfortable topics.
Hence hanging out in Lemmy.
In a big city it depends who starts.
No problem starting a discussion with someone if it’s for a reason or natural flow of the situation.
If somebody starts talking to you out of the blue, there is a very good chance he/she is a mental case, junkie, proselyting, selling something or all above.
yeah I guess this question is about myself being forced to initiate a conversation (for example a question). I was not precise.
Used to be like 8 or 9, but now it’s around 4. I have been streaming for 2 years and that’s likely the cause.
Recently I have been enjoying talking to random people more. Mostly old people like to initiate conversations with me, and we don’t even talk about crazy things. The conversations are more about how they are doing and it’s good to know that they are still kicking.
Depends on the context.
Most people would probably be like a 3, but if it’s an attractive woman probably like an 8. Even though im married and have no interest, lots of attractive women view me speaking to them as a threat and react aggressively. Being ugly is so fun 🙂
It’s entirely vibe based, some people I’d talk to no problem but other people… hell nah. Overall I’d say 2/10
7, but most of that is just approaching people. After we start talking maybe 3
Yeah the initialization/start is really hard for me.
1 being not afraid, 10 being terrified?
I am a 1.
Second this. YOLO the heck out. Met my hommies thru this.
I say I am 8
…says the person asking complete strangers.
I know you said IRL, but we are real… Honest.
in real life
And so it was confirmed. @wewbull@feddit.uk was no real person, and neither was I. Trapped eternally as fragments of @glowing_hans@sopuli.xyz’ imagination.
I fear being a nuisance to anybody so I rarely ask for help, even if it’s their job. 6/10 for that, it has improved.
If it’s just for the sake of being social, then it’s a 9/10. If I don’t have obvious common ground with people it’s nearly impossible for me.
Few years back I was invited to a party of a friend where I knew no one but her (and she was super busy). The people there were just so different to me, I could not find a conversation starter and was honestly not really interested in their lives anyways. It was a horrible time and I left early.
But somehow, once I find the right hook I can be quite charming and funny and even sometimes the center of attention, even around strangers. 2/10. It really depends on the situation, vibe and people.
But even if it’s going very well, my social battery runs low after some hours and I need alone time. The less effort I need to put in the longer I can go.
I would also say an 8. I grew up with social anxiety and not the way they’ve been displaying it in recent media. I mean like actual, crippling social anxiety. Like I legit couldn’t talk to a cashier to pay for my own food 'cause I was too afraid. I’ve been forced to—out of necessity —to talk to people and I’ve grown accustom to doing so given the right scenario but I am also an introvert. I think all of that adds up to me just not being the type of person to go around talking to strangers. If I did for some reason decide to, I would probably be very uncomfortable. It’s just not in my nature.
Oh yeah cashiers are scary as well
About a 5. It’s close to 50/50. I don’t like talking to people who steal energy. Maybe you know what I mean. I have no problem striking up a conversation with a stranger and maintaining it if it’s interesting. I sometimes have a problem dipping out when it stops bringing me joy.
