I posted about my friend once, Jaiden. Just for background or recap, I encountered Jaiden on a post about abusive parents. We chatted in the DMs of Reddit and became friends on Discord.
Jaiden has a lot of disabilities, including autism, C-PTSD, and ADHD. She has dealt with a lot of trauma in her life. Plus, she is a trans lesbian sheltered from the world. She is seen as a guy with transphobic and homophobic parents who are narcissistic/have NPD.
She has been traumatized in other ways that I will not name. However, despite not having resources and being very poor and sheltered, she is very ambitious. She constantly vents to me and others, so much so, that others have left her besides me, and has a whole list of things she wants to accomplish.
She wants to become very rich, talented, and good at everything. She also wants God to fear her, she said. She wants to become better than everyone else so that everyone will idolize her and become impressed.
When I question how realistic it’d be, she lashes out at me, but when I go along with it, she gets mad at me for believing in her and keeps asking me why I believe so much.
She believes she’s some sort of hero, which she might be. She has dealt with so much trauma, plus, she says she wants to become a celebrity and that her friends are celebrities or well-known.
What do you think of her information and how can I help?
I would not believe her. This reeks like attention seeking at best, or straight up narcissism at worst.
Note that narcissism seems to be at least partially hereditary. So if it is true that her parents have NPD, she is problably has too. Especially with the behaviour you describe.
The lashing out when people question their abilities reminds me of all the lashing out the most famous narcissist in the world does: Trump. Anytime someone calls out his bullshit, he goes on a rant, trying to discredit the person or organisation calling him out. Similarly to how your friend lashes out when you question their delusions of grandiosity.
I recommend, at the very least, to make sure to set some extremely clear boundaries for yourself, and accept that if they are crossed, you cut all contact. Because trying to help another is pointless if it just creates another victem. But I would distance myself from this person. Even if she does need help, I doubt you can provide it.