Well, I finally gathered the courage to have my coming out to my mother. Overall I would rate the experience a solid 4/10. The first reaction was kinda trash (She replied with, “does that really have to be”) and then later complained, that I told it to her at around 8pm, because now she will think about it and probably wont be able to sleep that easily. Some of her not so nice other reactions:
- You wont take surgeries (I replied with we’ll see)
- I shouldnt have dressed you as a girl that one time in my last week of school (I told her that I have indications of me being trans before that)
- But maybe what you feel isnt what you interpret out of it
After the last thing I wanted to explain, why I am devinetively sure I am trans, but she interrupted me with “I want to take a shower (bruh) now and you can tell this when the rest [of the family] is there too, so you dont have to tell it 3 times (She kinda got a point there)”
But luckyly enough she seemed willing to accept it (“We dont really have any choice”), and agreed to tell the rest of the family (yay). She also said, that I will continue to be her child, so I guess thats a win. She was absolutely shocked, but she will get over it.
When taking into consideration, that my parents are conspiracy theorists, this is about the best possible outcome I could have hoped for. It could have been much worse, especially when taking into consideration, that there whole social circle are also conspiracy theorists, of which some are right wing and I also heard such nice statements as “The WHO wants to make us all gay” (or something like that) from one of their friends.
It’s interesting to see how your rating actually went down from the last summary I’ve seen (the one in German). However, this time around your mother’s reaction actually does sound worse.
Honestly, you’ve described her as someone I’d not want to even keep in contact with. But that’s of course entirely up to you. Best of luck on your journey in any case!
Yeah, in retrospect I came to the conclusion to rank it down a bit.
My mother is actually a quite fine person, if you ignore that she’s a conspiracy theorist. This is also the reason, why I am quite happy about not having to live with them anymore, but it isn’t so bad, that I would completely cut contact with them. Also I Am financially dependent on my parents, so even if I wanted to cut contact I wouldn’t really be able to.