This may sound silly, but it happens to me more often than not that I forget the simplest solution when I wake up from pain: Did you take pain relief medication and wait 30-60 min before giving up on sleep?

Oof, that’s rough…

If it’s been 19 years and no change in sight, it seems it’s up to you to create the changes you’re hoping for.

The real horror is that the person panics when they can’t find their phone. They are just chilling at home, they know the phone is somewhere in the home, they don’t need it right now and they don’t have to leave anywhere.

The phone will turn up. It’s just a gadget, you won’t miss it if it’s gone for an hour or so.

(I may be jaded from misplacing stuff so frequently)

I’ve been struggling to not see it as explosion/outward expansion. This really helped!

Hmm. Probably no one.

Small amounts are weird to need “no questions asked” and large amounts are too large to give away “no questions asked”. Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give out large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.

If they can’t tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it’s probably because it’s something I don’t want my money to go to, so I’m not inclined to agree under those premises.

At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can’t ask questions (“I’m preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don’t want you to have to testify”), but by then there is no longer no questions asked…

Everyone I would give my money to would give that reason unprompted so I wouldn’t have to ask.

Except kids, they might ask just to see if it works, and then I would ask to know what for.

I don’t think I’ve ever been asked to give away something without being offered a reason, actually…

We can’t fix other peoples issues for them.

We can choose to support them if they are actively trying to fix their own issues.

We can also decide that even though they are trying the impact is too big on us and distance ourselves.

But if they aren’t actually trying to better themselves there is nothing we can do except protect ourselves.

Your sister needs to look into co-dependence and trauma-bonding (if not in this case then for future reference), and focus on becoming emotionally independent rather than confusing nurturing with doormat. She can only fix her own issues, not her friends. And learn that not every friend is worth the title.

I saw “women”, plural.

Just think it’s unnecessary to drag women for having rich husbands, when there is so much more relevant shit to drag these specific women for.

Oops, you failed to be able to have a conversation since you began with name-calling. That’s your rule, right? My rule is “don’t talk to people who are unable to have a conversation”.

Bye.

I fail to see how calling others “bat shit crazy” and “sick” is not name calling, but “numbskull” is…

How about you clean up your own porch before complaining about your neighbours?

It’s gross enough to have them be completely unqualified and just pay for a joyride in space while marketing it as some feminist achievement. Why add the stuff about husbands paying? I’m sure Katy Perry is rich enough for several trips to space.

Bashing women by claiming that they’re only worth what their husbands give them is outdated and stinky. We can do better than that… Let’s hate people in new and improved ways!

Perhaps for the gross things they actually do and say, like choosing to participate in this expensive PR-stunt to cover up the erasure of actual astronauts, regardless of who is paying…?

Are you sure you’re underperforming, or is that just an idea you came up with yourself? Have you talked to a boss or manager about their expectations for your role and if you are meeting those expectations?

It may just be a self-sabotaging thought, and getting confirmation that you are meeting expectations could let you relax and work at a preferred or natural pace without stressing about your performance.