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  • neatchee@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldIntention of holding eggs
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    6 days ago

    It shouldn’t be that confusing, considering this is literally the challenge lawmakers (honest ones, as rare as they are) face.

    There’s a great blog post by Neil Gaiman (despite recent revelations about his misconduct) that talks about “why we must defend icky speech”.

    Long story short, the law is a blunt instrument. If you cannot clearly and accurately define the terms being used in the language of the law then you wind up with a law that can be applied beyond the intended scope. Like when you write laws about freedom of religion and then wind up with The Satanic Temple erecting statues of Baphomet in court houses. Or banning the Bible from library because it contains depictions of violence and sexual deviancy or promiscuity

    These issues aren’t just academic. They have real-world consequences. Like, there have literally been legal rulings made based on the presence or absence of an Oxford comma

    Is that kind of pedantry useful to the average conversation? No, of course not. But there are people trying to make laws that target women, or trans women, and if they can’t accurately define what a woman is then the law can be used to target people they didn’t want targeted.

    Which is one of many reasons why trying to target trans folks with legal authority is a fool’s errand


  • This, 100%. How people view the homeless (as a group, if not individually) is the quintessential, textbook example of just-world fallacy.

    And your interpretation that it is a coping mechanism is also accurate. People need to resolve the cognitive dissonance of “I’m a good person, and good people help the homeless, but I’m not helping the homeless for X,Y,Z (possibly legitimate) reasons”. One of the easiest ways to resolve that is the just-world fallacy




  • neatchee@lemmy.worldtoRelationship Advice@lemmy.worldFeeling defeated
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    2 months ago

    Please take a deep breath, then read what’s next slowly, focusing on the meaning, not just the sounds. Read it over and over if you have to.

    Ready?

    Your abuser needed to put you down. They needed to make you hate yourself. They needed you to believe they were the only one who would ever love you. Because they knew that if you ever realized how strong, how worthy, how amazing you actually are… you’d leave.

    Keeping you from believing in yourself is the chain they used to tie you down. You are strong. You are loveable. You are worthy. You are so much more amazing than you could possibly know. And the very proof is these wretched feelings that were placed in you by an evil person to keep you caged.

    Every time you start to think these negative thoughts, I’d like you to say to yourself - out loud if that’s what takes - “these scars don’t define me. If the things they said were true, they’d never have needed to say them at all. These thoughts are the proof that I am so much better than that asshole would ever let me be.”

    You can defeat this

    You can be powerful

    You can find love that is beautiful and kind

    I believe in you








  • Interestingly there is a body of research that suggests enjoyment of music comes from having exactly one of two things, never both:

    Familiarity and predictability

    If it’s neither familiar nor predictable, it is inscrutable and therefore discomforting to listen to

    If it is both familiar and predictable it is boring

    If it’s familiar but unpredictable, it feels like a journey through known emotions

    If it’s predictable but unfamiliar it feels like ‘logical discovery’ and is fun and satisfying

    A bit reductive but I love this idea


  • I think we have far more that we agree on in this conversation than we disagree on. We can get into the minutiae of specific UIs but that probably misses the point.

    Where I agree with OP is on the first impression of the default Lemmy UI to users trying to migrate from big-corpo products

    For better or worse, these folks have come to believe that “slick looking” = thoughtfully designed = featureful and advanced. And that “sterile/boring looking” = amateur UX design = complicated and difficult

    We can’t break that mentality in the general public by simply repeating over and over that they’re wrong. It just doesn’t work that way, sadly.

    On my Mastodon server, we have the Elk frontend available and have it listed prominently right next to the sign-up/sign-in button as a “Twitter-friendly UI experience” (also on our About page). Then, we periodically throw up an announcement telling users that apps, Elk, etc don’t provide all of the features available on the modified webUI/PWA, along with a list of what they’re missing and how to learn more.

    It’s an “abopt, extend, extinguish” approach and it works. There’s a reason corporate enshitification pioneered that strategy. We can use it too, but for good :)


  • If the goal of Lemmy - and specifically lemmy.world is to be a boutique, niche aggregator then fine. But that is explicitly NOT the goal. That may be what some users want but they are free to go form their own small servers and isolate as much as they want

    I am not suggesting that every community needs to be growth-oriented. Small groups are great.

    But they are also weak, and virtually incapable of creating and maintaining the systemic change required to protect themselves long term.

    If the attitude is “let the capitalists take over everything else, I’m happy with my underground movement that struggles to survive” then that’s honestly bordering on selfish. “I’m happy so I don’t care about what happens to others. They can figure out how to find us and do what we do or get fucked” kind of energy. It’s privileged in the extreme

    The best way for small communities to thrive is through collective action. And in order for that to happen there need to be enough small communities to have any sort of influence as a collective. And in order for that to happen, there needs to be an entry-point into the collective that is accessible to newcomers.

    That is what Lemmy - and especially lemmy.world - have positioned themselves to be. It’s not dissimilar to Mastodon(.social)






  • It’s not your space to make that decision for. You are not the one who has potential problems if it draws negative attention. You aren’t the one responsible if server admins choose to block that community due to the law-breaking information you’re making available.

    The appropriate place to share information that clearly instructed people on how to break the law is in private, or in a space you have created and control yourself.

    It’s uncool to demand others allow you to use spaces they are in charge of like this. Have a little respect for the people who actually created these spaces.