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  • Malle_Yeno@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneGender rule
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    2 months ago

    You know I didn’t think about this comparison until reading your comment, but like:

    Back in the medieval period, it was vitally important (socially) that people understood your background and standing in society, because there were pretty strict rules about how one class of people is supposed to treat another. Like whether you were a social “superior” or “inferior” type shit. That’s how we got things like “your majesty” and how you might not be allowed to turn your back to someone while leaving them if they were a “superior”. In a lot of places in the world, wearing a kind of hat was legally required because that signalled “who you were” and how people needed to act.

    A lot of those rules were done away with post French Revolution/modernity because the idea that people were supposed to be equal caught on. So nowadays the idea that you might have to kneel at the sight of someone because of who they are or not refer to them directly in speech because they’re “above you” is considered unthinkable.

    I dunno, I guess now I see parallels between that old way of social thought and coming out today. It’s not as strict as the medieval thing (I don’t think we’re at the point where you legally have to come out or else you have committed a crime) but it seems like something cishet people socially expect queer people to do to “know who they are dealing with and how.”




  • Malle_Yeno@pawb.socialto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone90s rule
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    2 months ago

    I believe in Friends, it’s justified as Monika pretending that her grandmother is living there so she still gets her rent controlled tenancy agreement. I thought I remembered that there was an episode where she and the custodian were having a fight so he threatened to reveal the grandma isn’t alive anymore so that Monika would have renegotiate the agreement (and it was resolved so he didn’t do that.)

    As for Joey and Chandler’s apartment, no clue how that one happened lol







  • I feel embarrassed to say this, but I straight up have to use reminders to go “hey, talk to X person” and set them up in advance. Because otherwise our chats will just be me going “happy birthday” or “happy new year” and that’s it for the year.

    It’s not that my friends aren’t important to me, its just that it never occurs to me naturally to be the one reaching out. Can’t tell if I’m a bad friend or if I just have zero object permanence for people lmao







  • I’m sorry that you’ve been mobbed for sharing this view. That’s shitty.

    I feel like ableism, especially against people with intellectual and personality disability, is the one sphere where nobody seems to take the objections of the targeted group seriously, and simultaneously dismiss people speaking up for the targeted group for being “virtue signalers” or as whiners. So it’s like the only solution is to just not say anything.

    (Tangential but I have similar feelings about people calling others narcissists and attacking them for it, though I don’t feel like that is going to change anytime soon. Still, if the person targeted is actually a narcissist, then I feel like it’s bad to attack them for a diagnosis and symptoms they have no control over. And if they aren’t actually a narcissist, then why further stigmatize people with narcissism? It’s more complicated than the r-slur since abuse by narcissists happens and victims shouldn’t feel restricted from sharing their experiences accurately, but similar in how it’s disproportionately used to disparage and nobody takes objections to that usage seriously.)