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Cake day: July 22nd, 2023

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  • That’s what drew your attention? It’s not the example itself that matters, but what it tries to convey. Still, let me try with another example and if it’s not good enough, then you’re more than welcome to bring your own.

    In the above comment, that I’m replying to, the commenter’s set of values cannot reconcile with the method used or the whole process itself and as such is more likely to express disgust towards the end result.

    Hope it’s better, else, please partake.


  • Like I get that not everybody is willing to wash another person’s butt to get there but you can’t even admire the result?

    It’s a mindset thing. To give an example, think of the “meat is murder” vegans. A hamburger is a marvel of ingenuity considering its worldwide success, yet to the people who vividly picture how it’s produced from start to finish the end result isn’t something to be admired.

    The disgust is self-inflicted because their set of values cannot reconcile with the method used or the whole process itself.





  • Using the imaginary setting I’ve created in my mind based on the information presented in your comment, I’d say the invitation has two main support beams holding it up, eventual marriage and becoming a doctor.

    This would be an investment into your future as a couple and their possible grandchildren. So my advice would be to not take it for granted.

    The pressure to perform well in both professional pursuits and familial has broken many. And the closer you’ll get to a deadline, the higher the tension you’ll suffer. As such, the support has to be mutual.

    If you go in, go in as a family member. Participate, help out. Do not detach from them. This will help redistribute the mounting pressure.

    If you stay out, do not isolate yourself. You’ll end up dumping your frustrations on your partner and spiral downward towards self-defeat.

    The years ahead will be quite complicated. But if you stay true to your passion, something will come out of it even if it won’t be what you expect.

    Good luck, regardless of your choice.