Look. As a gender fluid it dawned on me that one can be trans and still gender fluid.

At some point recently, when feeling very fem. I wondered if it would be better for me to transition and be gwnderfluid from the fem side instead of from the masc side.

I think what you describe has to do with hanging too tight to the gender binary. Once you realize gender isn’t binary, you realize it’s natural and normal feeling how you are feeling at any particular point. This is, you don’t need to chose a static gender.

Plus, présentation doesn’t need to match societal expectations for the gender you feel. You can chose a presentation for the “occasion” or as a matter of style.

You can wear a skirt when feeling masc or a tuxedo when feeling fem. I am now so used to mixing and matching that I wear what I think looks good regardless of which side of the store it came.

All the possible signals. Really. I’ll give you two of my own experience (or inexperience)

• Teenagers in a school trip. She tells me, do you want to come with me, I forgot my key in the room. “Sure” I say. I proceed to walk with her and wait for her to go to her room while I held the elevator.

• Me in a quite alternative bar. She “why don’t you stay longer, I can take you home after”. Me “I have early class tomorrow”.

Both were drop dead gorgeous (the first one was fairly wealthy)

Those are just two examples. My life is full of them. Apparently I’m more attractive than smart.

Of course, there have been some super direct where I clued in but it was impossible not to.

I’m non-binary and don’t commune with binary choices.

I can be in parallel on Reddit and Lemmy. Eventually I may feel totally comfortable in one of them to ditch the other, or maybe not. Who cares?

Plus there are two sides for users in social media, producer and consumer.

I can be on Insta as a consumer checking what my friends are up to and on pixelfed posting my pictures and sharing the links with my friends.

Interestingly enough, it may be women themselves due to societal expectations.

It is legal in Canada. One day me, my partner and a friend (very feminist friend) were at the park in a nice spring sunny day. I removed my T-shirt and laid on the grass. She said something like “I think is should to”. I said " go ahead, why don’t you?" and she said something about feeling uncomfortable because no one else was doing it.

(It wasn’t shyness with us. I had already seen her naked)