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Cake day: December 13th, 2024

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  • girlthing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMisgendering rule
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    1 month ago

    tbh i feel almost exactly the same way (though i’m probably not enby).

    she/her feels dangerous, because if i act or am treated as femme then the transphobes in my life might start to suspect me. they/them just feels totally wrong, it’s not who i am. he/him at least feels safe, because it won’t raise any suspicions…

    AND just like you, gender is probably gonna be the least painful part of the next decade for me lol


  • girlthing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMisgendering rule
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    1 month ago

    Really, I do it because some snowflakes are too fragile to share their pronouns, and I enjoy annoying them until they do.

    hello from a snowflake who is stuck in the closet, and too fragile to share my pronouns because it forces me to misgender myself and reminds me of how far i am from a life that feels like mine

    i don’t disagree with the they/them-by-default policy (principle of least harm etc), but if you ever find people being less than enthusiastic about it or reluctant to state their pronouns, please consider that there could be other reasons


















  • girlthing@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldWell
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    3 months ago

    That is not what the second tweet said. What it said was: “He just ordered the government to call you <deadname>.”

    Replace <deadname> with the N-word. Does your logic still hold up? If not, why are you OK with one slur, but not another?

    I’m sorry, I’m really trying my best not to add to the collective rage and negativity on this site, but this is deeply disingenuous. The second tweet is the kind of nonsense that edgy hack comedians do when they want to get away with bigoted “jokes”. Wrap the offensive bit in layers of irony and detachment and rhetoricals, to distract from the fact that they are still saying the offensive bit.

    There is currently an ongoing genocide against trans people in the United States. I am begging you to take this seriously, even if you’re going to joke about it. Especially if you’re going to joke about it, because humor is powerful and words have consequences.