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Cake day: July 5th, 2023

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  • Hey OneSidedLover.

    Honesty is brutal. It can make or break lifelong commitments.

    There’s a lot in your life that’s complicated. But one thing is not - that you care for Grace.

    It doesn’t matter if it’s a teenage romance, or one after years of marriage and ups and downs, like what you’re describing… if you’re honest, you can absolutely win the heart you’re after or completely lose them, even if it happens over time due to a series of awkward situations.

    So here’s a possibly terrible way of going about it -

    Be honest with Grace. Don’t be honest that you are in love with her. Just be honest that you might like women. That you might even detransition for the right one. Tell her that part of the truth. Do NOT try to do a coy “there’s someone who I love” with it being obvious who that someone might be.

    If and only if Grace says to you, “you know, I kinda like women too”, you might have an in. If she says “I support you no matter what you do”, good luck with your deep friendship.

    It’s never as easy as that. But that’s the advice I have for you today.

    Hope this helps ail that aching heart.









  • Short answer - Yes. https://stinkycandlecompany.com/products/fart-candle

    Longer answer - all smellable scents are composed of chemicals that our scent receptors can understand, primarily by having the chemical compounds actually arrive into our noses and touch the receptors. What that means is that a fart is composed of very fine “shit particles” that float about till they enter your nose and cause you to smell it.

    While an individual fart may be difficult or impossible to bottle, since it contains very few particles needed to either store or replicate successfully, the existence of fart candles displays that farts can be emulated by scent manufacturers by studying the chemical composition of farts.

    I wonder how many farts it would have taken for scent manufacturers to successfully replicate a particularly pungent fart!





  • I had a bout of this thinking a few years ago. If you keep at it, improving yourself and nudging the other person along, you grow out of this fugue state. If it reaches breaking point and one of you can’t relent, you’ll break up and move on.

    But if you don’t, and it blossoms, it becomes a wonderful space to be in.

    A very wise person once told me that the person you spend your life with must be first and foremost, your best friend. If they’re not that, then it’ll always be an uphill battle.