Yeah I will say I was lucky in my mid twenties in what was available to access around me / my town. I’m now 35 and other than a dog shop that has events where I meet a bunch of people with dogs - I don’t have a lot of the same overlaps but am happily married so it wasn’t the goal on where to settle (more what school do we want etc.)

I’m just outside of the NYC area and so can find some weird unique thing with a quick train ride attached.

If you play sports and enjoy training 5k-10k-half marathon groups are a great add to meet like minded people that may have a more favorable split haha. Doesn’t hurt to get the cardio up. But again I would ask - what other interests do you have that are unexplored - that could be interesting to chase. It will be super uncomfortable to take a stab at it. But it’s a win if you do it. A win win if you meet folks while doing it.

Millenial here. Never used online dating. Never used arranged marriages. Never used newspapers.

Dated a bunch. Just met and befriended a lot of people through shared areas of interest. Indoor soccer mixed league / gardening group / dog park / dog events at a local shop.

I also wasn’t creepy and bothered people with trying to get a relationship from these events. Just a chatty comical person. And with regular attendance - bumped into similar people over time and eventually did more personal shit with them and felt out why.

Online dating sort of (to me) turns the act of dating into a hobby or even a profession? and then people land these relationships where they expect something out of the other person. “You need a perfect resume with good line spacing and indentation, if you want connection!”

When I just pursued my hobbies and enjoyment areas and bumped into people who mutually enjoyed those things and would just talk about those things. Like at most seek connection to the things you love and do them with people you like. And then build on those connections. That’s what people really want when they log into profiles.

Note I don’t have any social media other than Lemmy. Haha.

This is the power of the algos.

I had two Reddit accounts and one was solely used for gaming. Which started to give me feeds completely different then my more left, progressivy main account.

I would get these heavy metal videos about Mexican rapists that were deported on the one linked with gaming. (A clear conservative take). Showed Canadians as commies / socialist evil staties. Like dudes face - deportation date - what they were convicted of - murder or rape. It was wild.

And some of my liberal social main account demonstrated or showed a shit load of Canadian content that linked them with MAGA. And consistently highlighted their crimes against indigenous people. With tag lines of like “they want to talk about what we do - look at what they do”.

so I’m not even sure if the blue line ticking up is “I hate Canadians” or “they are magats too”

To be clear - am American - hate Americans - hate social media (Lemmy is my last social hope / account left) am team Canada all the way / Europe all the way.

I think everyone would benefit from a tool box / wellness discovery session that individual research or time spent with a therapist can offer. Essentially build out a mental health “first aid kit” for yourself in times of emergency. Many don’t - and so their first serious crisis (especially with men) ends violently.

Even if there’s 0 wrong in your life - knowing what things make you well and how to leverage them when you eventually lose someone you care about or have to cope with severe and debilitating grief is important.

Saying you don’t need to buy a med kit unless you have a severed artery sort of means you will be behind the coping and recovery process. This can be accomplished in 1 or 2 sessions with support or individual research.

Just my counter point as someone who did psych screening services - coached people with 0 psych / mental health issues prior out of self harm scenarios and got them in my car or an ambo to go to the hospital. But also never went to or believed in therapy for myself (and had my first session a decade after that job at the age of 35). I should have gone earlier. But I was fine and successful without it. Married / promoted / succeeding in life - So didn’t.

Obviously the man is better than the bear - all he wants from the woman in the woods is for her to live a life of servitude to him as his psuedo mommy, wife, child producer and lover, because he has epic Viking battles he has to deal with…. of taking the trash to the curb, and waiting in traffic to get to work, because therapy is too expensive, or feminine?

Lmao

Really hurt Perdue pharma - they still are laughing in their mansions.

Yeah so any space where a caregiver or worker can get fined huge sums of money for not taking adequate action it should just be illegal for AI to inherit that space then?

Because when I worked in the psych space if I was told XYand Z - I would need to act or as an individual face 30-100,000 dollars in fines.

If it’s left to the company you will just see shell corps housing the AI client facing hub. That will dissolve when legal critical mass forms and costs now outweigh the revenue wins.

“We formed LLC psych screen services, who will help our hospital team with mental health call volume!”

“Psych screen LLC is facing 27 lawsuits and is committing bankruptcy!”

“We formed LLC psych now using a different AI tool!”

So insurance companies use AI to screen claims.

It denies a claim for life saving intervention - person dies. Who is responsible for that? Historically it would be the insurance company - and worker. Would it be them or the AI company?

Psych screening tools were using it to pre screen calls.

Ai tells the person to kill themselves - who is at fault if they do it. Psych screener would lose their job and their license. What and who is impacted if AI does it.

QA check on a car or product is passed by AI but should have failed.

Thousands die before the recall. Who is at fault for it? The Company leveraging AI. Or the AI itself?

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People already are / have been dying. Abortion care deaths / trans and general population - suicide rate upticks / ICE detention center deaths (52 people last Trump term) with people being grabbed on valid visas now / 1 death already of a Ukrainian last month in a detention center - custody (44 year old) Maksym Chernyak was a stroke / seizure but when you understand the conditions 24/7 light - terrible food and sleep conditions makes sense.

Medicaid cuts that made it through will lead to deaths. Due to gaps in care.

Abortion stances will only get worse from here in states and at the federal level for access to medical care on still borns, and general birthing process will be worse.

NOAA cuts will lead to deaths due to alert notification systems of major storms and tornados. (March has already been particularly deadly)

ICE interactions and warrant laws being modified for them will lead to more deaths if they ever get reported.

Food bank funding and other supports have been cut so we will likely see an increase in malnourishment diseases and deaths

VA benefits and mental health support services are actively being cut. So expect more suicide and homelessness from our veterans.

Social security cuts will kill seniors - access to care / meals / warmth - home health aids. These will be seen as increases in fall related, medication mistakes, transfer issues, hospital stay illness upticks, complex wound healing (wounds in the elderly require nutrition to heal if poor they won’t heal and tunnel so sepsis deaths) and other related deaths.

All of these things won’t be clear TRUMP DID IT. But as those statlines tick up. And the average life expectancy and health outcomes of our citizens get worse by the year. It will be because of these cuts. People don’t realize that the death toll is already counting - it’s just that there’s no clear cut bucket to put them in.

Can’t get a general strike to work when the majority of utility workers are magats. The algos target the blue collar industry for this very reason. Look at what the conservative / fascist media arms of your own country are targeting very specifically. Its core services for corporate enablement.

Transportation, construction, farming, police force all fine if we try a general strike tomorrow. Most upper middle class also are magats. So bank services, middle management, accounting and financial CIO / CEO teams all also are not participating.

General strike happens tomorrow and protesters in the streets will be arrested - people who are Dems or anti fascist will lose their jobs and houses.

We are in a no win game.

Yeah load up on guns but also cans and water.

Joey badass said it years ago - have to be careful now.

“With all of the conflict of propaganda, I believe they are simply tryna slander
Start a Civil War within the USA amongst black and white and those alike
They are simply pushin’ us to our limit so that we can all get together and get with it
They want us to rebel, so that it makes easier for them to kill us and put us in jails Alton Sterlings are happenin’ every day in this country and around the world
The scary part, boys and girls
Is most of these stories don’t make it to the news and reach mass consciousness It is for sure time that we as a people stand up for acknowledgement
And accomplishment of what we call human rights
[It is time to rebel, better yet, raise hell
I just want everyone to be cautious about how they go about it
Because this is all part of the government’s plan and what they been plottin’ They’re literally beggin’ for this to happen, so they can kill us off
Usin’ uprisin’ and rebellion as the excuse in a timely fashion The cancerous foods, the chemical warfare, economic sufferin’ is not workin’ fast enough
There are many steps ahead of us and manifestin’ the future that they want
We have to work together, not only rattlin’ them on a physical plane
But to outsmart them on an intellectual mental level the same

Justice won’t be served by a hashtag, and that’s the very reason I ask that
What are we to do? We’re scattered around
With no clue of this ugly truth
All we know is who they ridiculed and who gets minisculed
Time to wake the fuck up and do our own research
And not form opinions based on just what we’ve heard
Ameri-K-K-K-a is force feedin’ you lies down your throats with a silver spoon
And eventually, we’ll all be doomed
Real, real, real soon

Most of us just don’t know what we can actually do and are being gaslit by everyone around us that it’s not as bad as the media is making it sound.

So if you do something you are being irrational and the things you can do without being thrown in jail have no results currently (and are being done to no avail). If you don’t do something you know it’s going to get worse. And then the worse thing you know that’s coming requires really serious counter measures.

Which if you act on timely you will be seen as over reactionary - and the problem. And then everything worse that comes after that will be seen as an appropriate response to the “radical violent and lunatic left”

Most of us in my lefty group are just starting to stockpile food and water. Either it’s full market crash or worse. So. Have the essentials on hand and a method to protect them. Fingers crossed it won’t get to that. But. It probably will.

Yeah one of the few fixes to our shitty situation is to end surveillance capitalism. It’s deconstructing our behaviors trending them and exploiting them vs ourselves and the people around us.

Cash becomes a component of a healthy surveillance free (ish) lifestyle. But you probably wouldn’t be posting on any internet site if you were all in on it enough for swapping over to cash to matter. haha.

Same boat here. Recently prescribed the vyvase? One and it’s been a total game changer.

But legit would drink coffee before bed to sort of “focus” on sleeping lmao. Was “dialing it back” and still at 4-5 cups a day prior to meds. Now just have a single cup around 1 pm.

A bit sad about it - I love the flavor of coffee. And energy drinks. But at the same time 3 hours after first dose everything in my mind became so much less “aggressive” like my executive wasn’t being pulled. And I could push it.

THAT ONE EGG WAS FORTY EGGS?

Haha - I need to take a page out of your book.

I just project as a curious intellectual with things and then also enjoy certain classical music or styles in music that capture classical sounds, but feel like my entire appeal or ability to be convincing is meeting people where they are at and then engaging the more theoretical sides from them, once they realize I’m respectful and trusting and not condescending.

I worry that if I pull into work listening to a concerto that I will no longer have the ability for folks to trust that I really can meet them where they are. lol. And I do educate train and onboard / facilitate comprehensive learnings for larger groups in my health care role. So it’s clearly a passion to be effective with that.

Too much anxiety about something that probably doesnt matter clearly per my down votes. Haha. Feel like there is a stigma in sort of being education providing - and condescending. And it becomes harder to dodge that as the first post indicates if say, the first impression is me listening to classical music whilst drinking an IPA haha. My ability to tease out a theoretical thought exercise conversation in a trusting environment might diminish up front (is the fear) and then I won’t effectively engage in my favorite types of discussions.

Got it so I am not on the lemmy death star just a lemmy destroyer. (If things went south)

Awesome thanks! I will scan around for a couple weeks and then register into a new account. Being a reddifugee with the recent censorship and a big “Center for humane tech” nerd am excited to be shifting in a better direction - so will for sure be invested in server and site health.