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Other responses here are pretty great advice. I just want to add that feeling this way is pretty normal in our modern world.

Our society evolved much faster than our biology. This world isn’t very satisfying with respect to the kinds of things our ancestors had to do I order to survive and be part of a group of other people. Most jobs feel unsatisfying because they are.

For example: it feels good to work a physically hard job in the same way exercise feels good, and yet physical work is often looked down upon as though there is no value in it (which is crap), and people who spend lots of time in a gym don’t face that same stigma about sweating.

I would personally be inclined to take the meeting to better know how to counter their efforts.

So one can tell you that the other is costing you too much.

Or 19%?

I very much agree with giving source instances a chance to discipline/ban bad actors. Hopefully this will evolve in that direction. For now the Beehaw admins feel that the right mod tools are not yet available. They have a specific vision for what they want to build, and it is completely up to them how they go about that.

That doesn’t mean everyone external has to agree or like their decisions, but it’s their house, their rules.

Several of the politically conservative subs would do that to redditors who commented in other subs with opposing ideologies. You didn’t even have to comment in the conservative subs to get a ban.

And as petty as I think that is, I still think it is their right to run an unchallenged echo chamber with completely homogeneous opinions. Similarly Lemmy instances are free to federate or defederate as they see fit.