Absolutely!

You’re absolutely right, I should stop having an opinion on it when it’s his hobby. And apart from this I 98% have kept my opinion to myself. This particular instance kind of bled into the conversations about him quitting and doing this full time and it gave me a lot of concern and pause on how effective he would be at making good business decisions. And from my perspective I take that on as a lot of pressure on myself to be responsible for both of us financially. I can, at least as things are now, but my business is commission based so nothing is guaranteed long term. So it scares me

To be clear, I don’t think he’s dumb in the slightest, I think he’s very smart. I think he is very detail averse and his ADHD can make him miss critical details and also keep him from having important discussions. And I also think he’s so afraid of upsetting other people that he’ll just agree to anything

True, he absolutely feels like he’s not being heard. He won’t ever let anyone help him with stuff like this, and gets very upset when people try to give him advice (not just me, everyone in our lives outside his content world). As a wife who very much supports his passion for the content creation I know I should just say “okay cool” to however he wants to manage it but it’s also incredibly hard to watch him let people walk all over him and him always undervalue himself (this goes for his day job too, it’s an ongoing theme)

Haha good advice! However I will never ever get him to sit down and do a budget. This whole argument just highlights how different we think and approach things

Posted on Reddit too, don’t trust it to get any genuine advice/thoughts there tho. Appreciate any input!

Ah the cooked fart. My husband and I bonded over this very shower thought early in our courtship

The land of opportunity

Someone skipped college years entirely it seems. Or just general adulthood in my case

Save your stipulations for a more stipulative matter, I can verify it happens

I so want nothing to do with this election, I feel so defeated and disgusted by all of it BUT I keep reminding myself that if I don’t vote then I essentially voted for whoever ends up winning. And that could easily be Trump. And in my view he’s not just an awful candidate, he’s an existential threat eat to democracy. So I will vote. But damn, literally almost anyone else could beat Trump, why this is our choice is so insane.

I love this idea! I have videos of my grandparents where my dad interviews them about their lives. And then one of my dad when we interviewed him about his life after he was diagnosed with cancer. Can’t really bear to watch that one but some day I should save them online somewhere. I like the idea of them being part of an archive and part of searchable history fo future generations

Well now I just looked up the documentary and put it on! Whatever this faction is I don’t think it’s representative of the whole. The ones near me I think have always embodied peacefulness. The temple has its doors open regularly, I’ve never really walked in and looked around but it would be interesting. It’s also in an area that’s really blown up in value since they bought it, worth many millions today. I’m sure they’ve been offered buyouts by developers but clearly didn’t accept any if so. Just goes to show it’s not about the money for them!

There’s a temple of theirs very near me. I don’t see many around now but back in the 90s it’s was a big thing. But they were always very peaceful here, not remotely sinister. They just played that tambourine and chanted away and did their own thing

That’s the spirit

stop cuddling the idiots everyone!! They’re getting far to warm and cozy

I’m making a big conscious effort to hear out and be in tune with perspectives of people of all age groups and to not deny anyone’s experiences just because they’re not my own. There are such generational divisions that, being between the older and younger generations right now, I can see so clearly. That makes me want to go out of my way to avoid it as I get older.

And sadness

The responses to this post have me more than a little rattled

No idea the laws or standard practices in OP’s location but a general rule of thumb where I am is if you flipped the house upside down anything that falls to the ground goes and everything else stays-meaning anything that’s attached/affixed to the property stays (or at least should be specifically referenced in a contract as included or excluded with the rent/sale). Plants that have been planted into the ground could be reasonably expected to stay from the new renter’s perspective, they have no way of knowing that was an improvement made by the current tenant and not the landlord/owner. The landlord messed up by not having this discussion explicitly with the current tenant and just assuming they were leaving the plants. I think it would be reasonable for the new tenant to require the landlord to plant a new garden to match the old, especially if it was specifically advertised that way

I think a big part of living with gratitude, at least for me, means not living with any regrets. I mean sure there are things I’d like to do and places I’d like to go but I really wouldn’t regret anything. I think I mostly have my priorities in order as it is, I’d just be really fucking sad to have to leave this world…but so happy for everything I’ve had in it