There’s the whole ‘broken trust’ aspect, from the financial stuff. People don’t want to have sex with spmeone they can’t trust. Maybe she is also exhausted from working and taking care of your four children. Perhaps taking some load off of her by helping out more around the house would decrease the stress levels and make her more likely to be in the mood.

I think there are inside jokes that only the tabletop DnD people catch too.

Ok, that makes alot of sense. I’m like the person who watched the movie and think I know what the book is like (but really the book is much better).

That’s really social and positive.

In a way, you respect yourself by not sinking to their level.

DnD is kind of a cross between improv, telling stories, and a choose-your-own-adventure, from what I gather from my spouse who runs games for a living. Playing Baldurs Gate 3 was really eye opening and I think the game helps one understand the appeal of tabletop RPGs a bit better.

I’m sorry about that.

And keep trying until you find the right therapist/therapy that works for you. There is huge variation in quality and effectiveness.

Brainspotting has been lifechanging for me. Took me decades to find it though.

It was just a showerthought, but this platform turned it into an interesting discussion. How amazing.

I have read that it is important to create content for Lemmy, in order to feed it. This has been my first post, I think. Better to get it done than put it off. I am glad people have been able to discuss.

Yes, I think your comment captures my showerthought. It was an excercize in empathy. I do realize that the love for a sacred animal is significantly more profound than the way I feel about my dog. That being said, I do have respect and love for my dear canine companion, which causes an inhibition for eating him.

I too like cows. They make sense to me.

The eating-a-human thing is symbolic. I take it as a reminder to have respect for the sacrifice made by the animals that died to make the food we eat. They support our life and so a level of respect is called for.

People think of Jesus as an avatar, like god playing a computer game on earth. So in that sense Jesus is video game god.

I hate the whole hellfire thing. It seems very manipulative.

You are right, I’ll delete my comment. I didn’t realize that homeopathy meant those crazy people that use ridiculous dilutions. I heard that it’s improbable that even 1 molecule of ‘active’ ingredient is left over after they dilute and dilute.

I used to eat the communion wafer, so maybe that’s the source of my misunderstanding! Always cool to learn something new, thanks.

I think it boils down to “and ye harm none, do what ye will.”

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He’s in the meat closet.

Considering we are eating a god right in front of them, they are remarkable civil about it all. I’m not a fan of religion either, as I’ve seen it bring out the worst in people. I wish there was more patience, understanding and empathy in the world.

Yes, I have respect for your mother for having the wisdom to draw clear boundaries during an emotionally complicated situation.

It’s incredibly good that you were able to get yourself out of this terrible relationship. I can’t imagine how hard that must have been. You do not have the money to support this person. That is a just a fact and while it’s natural to feel bad about that, there is no guilt that can/should be laid at your feet.

Use your money to support yourself. You are worth it, and are not a bad person for ending this relationship and extricating yourself. Consider seeing someone about a cord-cutting ceremony or equivalent, if you are a spiritual person. Buy yourself something small but nice when you get the chance. There is some healing that you will have to do in the future.