

Thanks for articulating this. Yeah just thinking someone is attractive is not a crush.
Thanks for articulating this. Yeah just thinking someone is attractive is not a crush.
It’s not ableism. Autism doesn’t give license to act in a way that makes coworkers uncomfortable. I guess I could use more careful language comrade but I’m sorry, I’m not gonna sanction acting like a creep because you’re autistic. Either ask someone out or find a dating pool where pining and stuff like that is acceptable. It’s not work and it’s not your org. Be professional.
I’ll say tho, sorry for the “Be normal” - I recognize that normalcy is contingent, but in the workplace being normal is about respect to your fellow worker. If you build up this relationship for months in your mind, the denouement is likely going to be toxic. While there’s places that can be fine, in a workplace you’re putting your coworker in a position where she/he has to decide if they want to keep seeing the person who has been carrying a torch for them every day or not. Yes there’s HR to smooth things over sometimes, but I think it’s still just unfair to you and the other person if you involve them in a long and twisty psychic obsession at a place they need to work at to pay rent, etc. we don’t live in communism where they can just get easily reassigned.
DONT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT.
To elaborate for those who are going to “but ackshwally,” yes there’s some nuance.
If you’re in a very large org with different departments, that’s different as long as there’s not power dynamics. So if you’re sales and they’re part of quality assurance, ok, fine. Be normal ask them out and move on. Don’t carry a torch, that’s the one way to really make what could otherwise be a very normal interaction weird.
Don’t date your boss, don’t date your subordinate, don’t date your peers in your part of the office. If you absolutely have to, then BE NORMAL and just ask them out to get over it quickly and remember that the longer and weirder you make it the more likely you could lose your job in a worst case.
You’re not Jim and Pam in some slow burn romance. Crushes are for people under the age of 18 (in which case, all the not having sex with coworkers goes out the window if it’s not a real job. The amount of kids who hooked up at the pizza place I worked at… It was high).
To spell it out: you’re going to have to maintain a professional relationship with this person if they’re not interested OR if you break up. Is it worth it? There are probably many people out there you’re compatible with. Work crushes are inappropriate, especially since they can’t just leave (like, say, some person you hit on in a bar or something). They aren’t there for romance either, they’re there to work.
P.S. I speak from the fact that I’m at least somewhat socially awkward and the very thought of having to see someone who rejected me or dumped me daily was so crushing I fully embraced don’t shit where you eat mindset. There have been a few coworkers I found attractive, but I never carried a torch or crushed on them since I would never be able to act on it.
For some reason a lot of zoomers look way older than they should too but I can’t say why.
Citation: https://youtu.be/WJG6L1tVZC0
Millennials are basically 82-94 give or take a bit (hard cut of at 80 and 96 I’d say). The oldest zoomers are in their early late 20’s early 30s at the most.
Get drink mate. It’s not Zionist (that I know) and you can (as the other poster notes) carbonate basically anything.
Shit rocks. I don’t use it often but it’s very nice to have and cheaper than buying 24 packs of lacroix (in the long run)
Yeah, leftists need to save their bullets for the real mass movement.
It also destroys solidarity. One 401k getting nuked doesn’t create a movement, but an entire pension fund for a profession - instant solidarity.
401k is the greatest scam perpetuated on the American worker.
Cybernetics is cool, especially cybersyn-related forms.
Glad these matt emojis still work.
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Mods/Admins, what’s up? Do we need to pony up to buy the domain? I could chip in a few buckaroos if necessary.
Have you seen Don Hertzfeldt’s World of Tomorrow?
Yes but the history of the book is different. The text of Augustine’s confessions is the same but the copy produced by penguin is DIFFERENT from a manuscript produced by a medieval scribe. They have different histories and are different things in the world.
You can’t say that my book and your book are the same. The “text” may be the same, but they aren’t the same thing.
Unless you discount the materiality of life entirely you will never be your clone.
It’s no longer me. The clone doesn’t actually have the material connection to my mother, to the historical world we live in. It’s made of different stuff.
Again, for others, it might be able to play the role of “me”. But it isn’t me, will never be me. It will have been created in a new way, and brought into history in a different way.
I think that as historical materialists we need to hold the line on this kind of thing. Just as the bringing into being of a commodity imprints the history, the labor, the life into it, so does the bringing into being (continually and autopoetically) of the self constitute the historical and material conditions of its life.
The material conditions that create the clone are not me. It will never be me even if it “remembers” being me.
Yes. It’s a copy. No longer any attachment to the world that I was born in.
It’s like the Joyce line about the omphalos telephone line back to eve. The clone won’t have any more attachments to the history of the world in the way that you or I, through our mothers, do.
That is why mystic monks. Will you be as gods? Gaze in your omphalos. Hello! Kinch here. Put me on to Edenville. Aleph, alpha: nought, nought, one.
It will be a separate existence, born anew, and no longer the “me” born xx years ago.
Btw putting your brain in a clone might well have incredibly weird phenomenological aspects that like, I don’t know if I’d want to do… the ideal future is one where medical technology allows for the repair and maintenance of the bodies we have.
Again, thats perhaps the limit. Clone body for the original brain. Cloning the whole thing is no longer you.
It is shocking how much worse they are than