Personally, I’m way less bothered by the use of the word sapphic by an AMAB person to describe themselves, as I am by equating that to “attraction to AFAB people…”

This both alienates trans women and invalidates AFAB people who are not women. Please use better terminology to describe what you mean. As a trans man in a relationship with a trans woman, that honestly gave me the ick.

I’ve been boycotting them for a while (BDS), but it’s good to see that more people are joining in.

I’d say this is different from a typical ‘transmasc’ experience.

i don’t really feel like a girl as a gender but i feel really good in a feminine body.

Sounds like you might be GNC female? Ultimately it’s up to you to decide what terminology is right for you, but as a trans guy myself, I personally really do not relate to loving/wanting to have a feminine body, if anything the thought is a little triggering. We’re not all the same though.

I feel left out, not even a spam bot wants me :(

This is so relatable that it hurts, actually.

I am an atheist because I do not believe in god, not because I think that a god cannot exist. I am an atheist because the burden of proof is on those who claim that a god does exist. If such proof were to exist (and pass scientific scrutiny, not rely on faith), I would believe in a god.

I understand what you’re saying, but in reality, the definition of ‘atheist’ is a lot broader than you are asserting. Simply not having belief in a god to begin with is enough to be an atheist.

An atheist can, but does not necessarily, reject the notion of a higher power inherently.

If there is a god (or gods) then there is a god (or gods), and if there isn’t then there isn’t. There’s no reason to mull over something that has had no bearing on my life and if tomorrow we get irrefutable evidence for either side that’s when I’ll deal with that new reality. In the mean time there are better things to do.

Hugely relatable.

I can read about 80% of the words in this if I’m honest, and had to fill in the rest with a best guess.

I’m sorry if this is a really stupid question (I am not American/don’t live in the USA), but… aside from the fact that some people might not “pass” particularly well, what evidence does the state have that a prisoner is or is not trans? Is the system so well-coordinated that they can and do easily search every prisoner for past name/gender changes? (Assuming the person in question had already updated their documents.)

I was living pretty much entirely anger-free until 2 things happened:

• I started working at my job, where I was hired for my expertise and yet I am frequently interrupted mid-sentence, disrespected, or told to do things in ways that defy the foundations of my entire discipline (before anyone tells me to quit, I can’t, because of immigration-related reasons)
• One of my friends has fallen down the alt-right/X/Musk fanboyism pipeline and just about everything he rants is uninformed, reactionary, and rage-inducing. He spends too much of his time being angry about problems that don’t exist and spreads that anger everywhere

Saying that, I am autistic and often struggle to distinguish between anger, frustration, feeling hurt, and even sadness. I can isolate depression as a feeling fairly reliably though, because that is more numb and less passionate.

Agreeing with your summary of his actions and calling him cringey are not mutually exclusive

Good god, I am so tired of hearing about this cringey edge lord.

We live in a cisheteronormative society in which, yes, absolutely, the way someone’s gender is perceived impacts how people interact with them.

I (trans man) generally don’t treat my friends too differently based on gender, but there are definitely some differences between my relationships with women and my relationships with men. When I hang out with other guys, there’s a lot more “dude”, “man”, “bud” in conversations (obviously). When I hang out with women, conversations about feelings and personal issues are more common, and so are hugs/embraces. This is pretty much entirely “code switching” for me, and not a case of me imposing that this is how relationships with a certain gender should work.

I should point out, though, that this is not 100% based on gender and gender only. It’s largely about the personality, and we live in a world in which there is a strong correlation between gender identity and personality traits (see: gender roles and stereotypes), and so gender can often (but not always) act as a shorthand for that. As a counterexample, someone I know is an effeminate (cis) guy, and I’d say that our conversations and interactions feel more like the ones I’m used to with women.

Your question’s made me curious; you appear to be binary trans (please correct me if I am mistaken!) Prior to making this post and having this discussion, what had the concept of passing meant to you? Was it purely about automatically being referred to with the right pronouns and terms (son/brother/etc) without having to say anything? Or was there anything more to it?

That is really sad – the worst of both worlds. You guys deserves better.

That’s totally fair. I’ll leave my comment up just bc it’s informative

I think it’s a little more than 5, but yeah, there are only a handful, maybe 10 or so. This is otherwise 100% true.

The moment I or any FTM friend of mine mention top surgery, the discussion immediately changes into which surgeon and why.

And the gossip travels far! I haven’t had surgery yet, but I have my surgeon picked out already, and so many trans guys without any firsthand experience feel the need to tell me that he is an asshole. (I do appreciate the heads up; it’s just that I kind of don’t care bc his results are awesome.)

Eh… I know this is a meme sub, but this undermines any arguments to be made about real problems with healthcare systems by just… not being accurate.

If you need stitches in the UK, that’s an A&E (ER for my North American friends) sort of ordeal, and yeah, you won’t be seen immediately because the system is badly managed and overwhelmed. You’ll have to wait several hours (unless you’re bleeding out/at risk of death, in which case you’ll be seen quickly), not 43 months ffs.

That said, anything that’s non-urgent can take a few months. The only exceptions to this are 1) mental health, where you’re looking at several months for the waitlist almost irrespective of severity, and 2) gender-affirming care, where you won’t be seen for well in excess of 5 years, which at this rate & in this political climate (TERF island), is likely to outlast the NHS gender clinics themselves. Private is still an option for both of these branches of healthcare, but it’s expensive for sure.

Thanks. I thought you were literally referring to ISIS as ‘woke’. Completely missed that you were talking about HTS. (Apologies; I have autism.)

What is “Woke ISIS” 😭

Not to detract from your point, but gender dysphoria is a medical condition. The brain undergoes sex differentiation in utero, and the rest of the body usually but doesn’t always match this.

It was murder, yeah. And dude deserved it :) And so do all the crooks in government he and others like him line the pockets of.

Politicians have ensured that there is no peaceful, legal pathway to reform. That’s why this happened.