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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • I moved from IC to full time management this year and I’m struggling with this. I don’t control the money, the most I can do is give a glowing review and argue for my team members to get raises but the budget is not in my hands. I do have a small “team building” budget that I can spend on food and drinks so I take them out for a nice meal as often as I can. What else am I supposed to do?



  • Well, sorta. As someone else pointed out the economic incentives for most dating app owners are diametrically opposed to the needs of the users. There is also a huge consolation in the market with the majority of the apps by user count being owned by a single company which leads to enshittification.

    There are a few exceptions but they very much aren’t for everyone.

    OKCupid from 20 years ago was great before it sold out. But it’s only accessible to time travelers.

    Next are the more event based or hookup apps which tend to cater to kinksters, swingers, poly, and queer folk. I’m thinking of things like FetLife, Grinder and Plura. They work well for their audience since those communities tend to have events that people will keep coming back for even if they have successfully found someone on the app. In fact success finding someone might make them more likely to keep on the app and bring in their friends.

    But for monogamous straight people? Dating apps are a hellscape.


  • Not the case at all. Remember, biology is way more complicated than you think. As a starter, there is chromosomal and hormonal sex. Chromosomal sex (X and Y chromosomes) generally determines hormonal sex. But… the gene that determines hormonal sex (SRY) can sometimes get knocked off the Y and onto the X. Or off the Y and onto nothing. Or a bunch of other things. And hormonal sex can get disrupted in a bunch of ways, so that you end up with people who are intersex or seem to be cis female until puberty when they grow a penis. Or who appear to be cis female until they have problems conceiving and find out they are XY but don’t have testosterone receptors. Or any of a thousand other things that make sex determination complicated.

    Biology is statistical not deterministic and with 7 billion people there are going to be a lot of edge cases.