Hi

Girls, Im not doing great. Ive been out of a relationship for a nearly 4 months. Not long but the tail end of the relationship looked very much more like a friendship with no affection. We decided to just be friends, and that has worked out quite well.

However I really need a long long hug. I dealt with a lot of loneliness like this before my relationship, and honestly the only thing I could think of was how cool it would be to just get hugged. No sex, no kisses. Just a hug.

A lot of the methods like plushies and stuff do work a little, but it maybe fills 10% of what I need.

I worry about this, since it pulls me towards looking for a relationship when I know I am not ready. It was like that last time tbh, and I was just lucky to find someone so nice. Im worried I wouldnt this time but because im so lonely and touch starved i would just deal with it.

I wish I could ask my friends not just for a hug, but like a full on cuddle. But theyre either in relationships so that would be considered cheating, or they would consider my request as me being interested romantically.

Sorry for another negative post. Most days arent great atm. Its hard to not spiral all the time. Yesterday was ok, it was nice seeing people comment on my outfit being cute. It was nice to feel comfortable in my body.

Ill try to be more positive.

Thanks for reading.

-Minty

  • Jarix@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    On the off chance you are planning to be near Vancouver for the upcoming ski season(lots of Aussies seem to work the local resorts) ill be happy to meet up and give you a hug. Got a lot of nerds and geeks here that would be happy to hang out with you as well if you are are also of that persuasion…

    Unlikely i know but offer is open if needed.

    Also there’s a small queer positive modern rock internet community at https://www.rockisdeadradio.co.uk/ the discord is small but full of support and allies. Runs out of Victoria BC Canada

    Hugs and take care