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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/VRBeach on 2023-07-17 13:30:51.

Obligatory this didn’t happen today, by 2 nights ago.

My wife ordered and took a DNA test to figure out her heritage, it’s taken a few weeks but the result came back a few nights ago. She excitedly ran to me to go through the results.

1st result western European, nice!, 2nd result some Latino countries, great! And so on.

All was going well until the last result, some 1.2% which showed Ashkenazi Jewish, to which my mistake was made.

On announcement of this I excitedly shouted “Mozel tov!”, Only for my wife to breakdown in tears.

My wife lost her mother to breast cancer some years ago, and not knowing her family history has lead to alot of investigation into the BRCA gene mutation, which increases the risk, my wife has had therapy with this being an issue, a long with the associated anxiety, which I knew about. What is didn’t know was the Ashkenazi Jewish women have a higher probability of having this BRCA mutation and there for breast cancer, and I, like the oaf I am only celebrated that result and not the others.

She’s not mad at me anymore but I feel like the world biggest idiot.

TL;DR I celebrated my wife’s higher probability of breast cancer, after her mum died of it.