Like I feel like there are hidden traumas that got wiped by someone, like… trauma that’s even worse than those that I currently remember, or I wonder if the happy memories are perhaps implanted by someone to try to cover up trauma.

This gets complicated and messy, fast. Allow me to provide some personal experience in this area.

As someone that has had trauma hidden from myself behind dissociation and denial, I’ve done a hell of a lot of work to not do that anymore. I even have some recall, which is… not great feeling, but I’m now living in the real world. One aspect of this was being triggered by awful verbal and social behavior in others, and almost immediately forgetting that it happened; bullshit would just slide off my brain like it was coated in teflon.

Let me say that having a “spotless” memory like that is hell. It’s a state where you fail to learn important red flags about situations, people, and more. This used to get me into a lot of trouble. It runs contrary to avoiding danger - survival in extreme cases - even if you have to sift through a pile of triggers to get to the truth. I won’t sit here and say that trauma is good for anyone, but there may be legitimate cases where being triggered (because of trauma) might just save your ass.

At the same time, folks will self-medicate and over-medicate with all manner of substances, in order to forget or dull their senses in the face of trauma and triggers. If there is a more humane option, it absolutely should be explored lest we continue to watch such people slowly self-destruct.

With that, I’ll opine that the best possible answer is something that can be surgically applied to specific memories that are causing more harm than good. With the careful guidance of therapists and doctors. Somehow. I have no idea how something like that would even work. Therapy and mindfulness are probably the best we’ll have for a long time to come.