Long story short. Friend with history is body and mental issues (mainly depression). I moved to a different country, so we talked less. For the past two year things went very one sided. I would text her and get reply much later. Never able to meet when I was in town.
Then, nothing. No answers at all. Text or calls. Friends tell me similar story. I keep texting sporadically, sometimes calling. After months I get a response. She’s crying and saying shes sorry for not replying, that’s she’s not well in general and needs time. Problems with work, relationships, family and some tragedies all in short time.
That was months ago. Part of me thinks to give space, but another is worried because she’s avoiding our common friends too. The only way to reach to her or even know how she is would be through her family, which is very intrusive.
Any advice?
Edit: fixed “In moved to a different country” to “I moved to a different country” as somebody misunderstood due to the typo
Start making timelines.
If she doesn’t respond like say, 3 honest months from now? You could say it’s a dead friendship. Mental issues destroys people and it is not always a wise decision to try and like, feel like you’ve gotta force a way in because that could make it worse. It could make someone pressurized and that pressure could build up in them to enact and it might not be the kind of action you’d want.
But two years though? That’s kindof tough to gauge really, I’ve had people like that and honestly they just get quietly discarded. No parting words, nothing. Some people just need all of the time in the world, literally and it’s sad when it happens when that’s the choice they’re going to make for themselves.