One finger hand raises aren’t enough for me because despite being a force of nature, I’m often quite lacking in assertiveness in social situations. If I want someone’s attention I go full “engaged student” on them. Big shit-eating grin so everyone knows I understand what I’m doing is silly, hand held high, holding my elbow so I can outlast their lack of attention. Acknowledge anyone who looks at me funny with a renewed grin to make them smile/giggle with me.
I do this in busy bars, at meetings, at large social events… people do giggle a bit but everyone knows what the signal is for, so it works, and it’s completely passive so not rude at all, and I can giggle along with them because it IS kinda silly for a 40yo to do that. Buuuuuut it works. It also tends to enroll other people who notice and point it out, just like in class!
It’s one of the things I do instead of masking; it allows me to be part of conversations without interrupting, or gets me what I need without yelling.
One finger hand raises aren’t enough for me because despite being a force of nature, I’m often quite lacking in assertiveness in social situations. If I want someone’s attention I go full “engaged student” on them. Big shit-eating grin so everyone knows I understand what I’m doing is silly, hand held high, holding my elbow so I can outlast their lack of attention. Acknowledge anyone who looks at me funny with a renewed grin to make them smile/giggle with me.
I do this in busy bars, at meetings, at large social events… people do giggle a bit but everyone knows what the signal is for, so it works, and it’s completely passive so not rude at all, and I can giggle along with them because it IS kinda silly for a 40yo to do that. Buuuuuut it works. It also tends to enroll other people who notice and point it out, just like in class!
It’s one of the things I do instead of masking; it allows me to be part of conversations without interrupting, or gets me what I need without yelling.
I’ve mastered the rest of them though….