I’m not trying to get into the “how to disengage from a stranger” conversation, but your assessment of people interacting in public seems to be predicated with an assumption that they dont understand people.
You have made some additional bad assumptions about how you think the interactions I’m proposing should go, and how and when they should stop.
The good news is that this hostility toward the world that you seem to set on projecting from these comments is usually pretty obvious, so I probably wouldn’t have bothered.
Just put your headphones on and your hoodie up so you can get back to arguing with strangers on the internet, and continue your transit in misery.
It wouldn’t cost you anything not to bother others, especially in situations where they can’t leave. I’m sure your intentions are good (even though other’s can’t know that) but you will be making a lot of people uncomfortable in your attempt to connect with them. There’s better places for that than public transit or a plane. That’s all.
It wouldn’t cost you anything not to bother others,
Also doesn’t cost anything to bring some joy, or if not joy, at least novelty, into people’s lives.
I’m sure your intentions are good but you will be making a lot of people uncomfortable in your attempt to connect with them.
I think you dramatically overestimate how many people are made uncomfortable due to your own anxieties about it. I also think you’re missing out on little opportunities for joy in your life.
I can keep posting links, but it’s pretty clear you’re not reading them. (ETA: they might have been in other threads)
There’s better places for that than public transit or a plane.
But you push ahead, even in situations where people are stuck.
And now we’re back to bad assumptions and straw men.
I’m sorry but I don’t understand what the bad assumption and straw man is when you yourself said that you’re “the guy who takes a shot at a random conversation on the plane”
These two words completely mischaracterize the situation.
Guessing you haven’t bothered with the links I posted, since you haven’t spoken to them and continue to just try to find ways to pick at some point that I’m not trying to make, but I encourage you to take a few minutes to read them with an open mind.
I’m not trying to get into the “how to disengage from a stranger” conversation, but your assessment of people interacting in public seems to be predicated with an assumption that they dont understand people.
You have made some additional bad assumptions about how you think the interactions I’m proposing should go, and how and when they should stop.
The good news is that this hostility toward the world that you seem to set on projecting from these comments is usually pretty obvious, so I probably wouldn’t have bothered.
Just put your headphones on and your hoodie up so you can get back to arguing with strangers on the internet, and continue your transit in misery.
It wouldn’t cost you anything not to bother others, especially in situations where they can’t leave. I’m sure your intentions are good (even though other’s can’t know that) but you will be making a lot of people uncomfortable in your attempt to connect with them. There’s better places for that than public transit or a plane. That’s all.
Also doesn’t cost anything to bring some joy, or if not joy, at least novelty, into people’s lives.
I think you dramatically overestimate how many people are made uncomfortable due to your own anxieties about it. I also think you’re missing out on little opportunities for joy in your life.
I can keep posting links, but it’s pretty clear you’re not reading them. (ETA: they might have been in other threads)
There are also plenty of worse ones.
But you won’t know if it will bring them joy or not. But you push ahead, even in situations where people are stuck. It just feels self-serving.
That’s true. Hard to predict the future.
I’d say it’s a lot more likely that joy or anxiety are the outlier cases, and just a kind of indifference, with a positive tone, is the baseline.
And now we’re back to bad assumptions and straw men.
Fine fine, one more link.
https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0037323
Non-paywall summary: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/07/26/744267015/want-to-feel-happier-today-try-talking-to-a-stranger
Did you not earlier say how you initiate conversations with people even on planes?
Yes. What is your point?
I’m sorry but I don’t understand what the bad assumption and straw man is when you yourself said that you’re “the guy who takes a shot at a random conversation on the plane”
These two words completely mischaracterize the situation.
Guessing you haven’t bothered with the links I posted, since you haven’t spoken to them and continue to just try to find ways to pick at some point that I’m not trying to make, but I encourage you to take a few minutes to read them with an open mind.
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Are you sure?
Sorry. I misread your comment as “people on their phones”.
Then deleted my incorrect reply. I did this before you replied with this sweet gotcha.