yeah well dating is very gendered… but oftentimes people absolutely refuse to acknowledge it and project their weird ideals onto other folks.

fwiw i am in the same boat as you. every partner i had refused to be financially responsible. and a lot of them straight up lied about it too. as in I told them I was looking for someone who was financial stable, they said they were… and they were not and only revealed this to me months/years later. and I ended it and they saw me as this evil bad guy… lol

I am just way happier alone than I’d ever be having to support a second person on a single salary. To me that feels like a glorified form of prostitution. But a lot of men and women are seeking that kind of arrangement.