Hi, so I could use some help. I really like my girlfriend and I want to show my love and make her feel special, but I don’t know how to do it without going into “obsessive” territory. I’ve loved her for two years and every day with her is great, but I don’t know what to do since I feel more obsessed every day.
Something that healthy couples can borrow from couples therapy is the State of the Union:
each week you share 5 things you appreciate about what the other person did last week, ask for one thing that’d make you feel more loved from the other person, and discuss something that went well.
it doesn’t have to be as codified as that, you can just bring these things up in conversation casually.
And, aa someone else mentioned love languages - you can rotate through all of them: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts.