my bf insinuates we break up or saying he can’t show affection for me, bringing up breakups, etc. he also seems kinda out of it a lot.
he’ll say he’s uncomfortable in the relationship (uncomfortable dating, not because of me, i don’t think) or wants to make sure he’ll be good for me but then says he doesn’t wanna talk about it or just brushes it off and says he’ll continue to date me and just deal with it because he likes me and without me, he’ll have no one.
he thinks “oh, this is the way i am” and won’t do anything. he’s said he wanted to break up many times but then he doesn’t because then he won’t have a partner (obviously)
I can only speak from my personal experience in similar circumstances. Get out, move on with your life. If they don’t want to seek help now, while the fire is still kindling, it’ll only continue to burn everything in its path - including you.
You deserve a partner who is ready to be with you and be their best self.
thank you so much!! I’ll see how it goes :)