my bf insinuates we break up or saying he can’t show affection for me, bringing up breakups, etc. he also seems kinda out of it a lot.

he’ll say he’s uncomfortable in the relationship (uncomfortable dating, not because of me, i don’t think) or wants to make sure he’ll be good for me but then says he doesn’t wanna talk about it or just brushes it off and says he’ll continue to date me and just deal with it because he likes me and without me, he’ll have no one.

  • jay (he/they)@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
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    6 days ago

    thank you! this helps, we could try couples therapy but i can’t go with my family because they have an intense fear of me being SA’d so i can’t even be around amab people in their presence

      • jay (he/they)@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
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        5 days ago

        they’re very conservative and transphobic too so they see me as a woman, and they think all amab people will do sexual things to afab people even IN PUBLIC

    • latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      1·
      6 days ago

      Oh, Jesus, that sounds very rough, too… I mean, I understand the worry, but it seems like their worry thoroughly shifted into controlling paranoia… Anyway, not judging your family, there are plenty of justifiable reasons for that fear, but it does sound… extreme…

      Anyway, I hope things’ll work out one way or another! And as rough as this may sound, a breakup would be far from the end of the world, however painful it may be in the moment. You would also have zero reasons to feel guilty about it, you’re his partner, not his therapist.