I’m trans. To me the most important thing about jokes in the workplace is when a cis person says something that I can twist into being a deadpan trans joke (of varying riskiness depending on the group). Either the cis person will softlock while trying to determine the ethics of laughing or they’ll go for it and potentially apologize. It’s always a win in my book though

Seattle has a park/trail like this

Having lots of holes is a crucial part of reef structures. It provides surface area for more things to live in

Kids going to be running out on the ice to chase a truck full of boiling water lol. I say do it only the strongest will survive

This statement doesn’t need a slur to get the point across

Moscow Idaho is a small college town that only has 35 pigs on staff it looks like. It would be a city wide event to move them in a comparable way, they’d be importing pigs from surrounding towns

I lived in Moscow a few times. Now everyone knows about the place “oh Moscow, that’s where that quadruple homicide happened yeah?” And that’s literally all they know about it lol. For anyone curious part of why it was such big news is because murders don’t happen too often there, like one every 5-10 years, so for it to be a quadruple is bonkers. It’s the kind of town where people don’t lock their houses before going to work, they leave their cars unlocked with keys in ignition to stop in a grocery store, if your bike is stolen you’ll find it a few blocks away, and it’s not uncommon for young kids to wander around alone because the community generally looks after them

Yeah the first time I peed myself I was doing dishes trying to finish up the last few while holding it in. I didn’t even have to pee painfully badly or anything it was a pretty standard amount of pushing it I used to be able to do. There wasn’t really any warning or anything it just sorta happened and I wasn’t even sure that’s what was going on until I checked. I think I’ve almost dialed in what my holding it limit feels like but I still mess up on occasion

Rip, my bad 😭

Just made a post about some of my experiences here: https://lemmy.zip/post/39222527

I will likely make another post somewhere else that includes photos for people but I don’t know when that will be

I had that castle toy as a kid holy shit the memories tucked away in this brain

I went to a rave a couple years back that had an entire area dedicated to snuggling and napping. There were couches, bean bag chairs, and a ton of blankets and pillows. It was pretty great

Seems like you’ve got some feelings you should work out fam. I get it but like expressing it this way you just look like an asshole. Hope your day goes well

A campaign I was in once me and another party member drove a carriage through a battle as a last ditch attempt to prevent a tpk. We actually saved almost everyone but the player we did kill was so pissed lol

The challenge is for real. What got me through the worst of it early on was really trying to focus on what I had power to change and sweeping what I couldn’t change under the rug to deal with it later. Even if it was stuff that seemed very minor at the time it just helped me build some kind of foundation underneath myself knowing that I had any control in my life. Things like “I’m going to find a new type of food for my cat to see if I can get him to puke less, and maybe I can or maybe I can’t that’s okay” or “I’m going to buy new socks because my ex spouse used to gift me socks and now I need to get into the habit of doing that myself” (I have not successfully pulled this one off yet a year later and all my socks have holes in them but I tried and it gave me a sense of control working towards it which is what I needed more than I needed the socks). These things will add up and I believe you’ll be able to learn to take care of yourself how you need. Yeah it’s exhausting, I’m still exhausted, I cry almost every day, but working towards things is keeping me going even if I’m doing so very slowly on a lot of fronts

The lead up to me getting lower surgery I spent almost 3 years building my social circle to meet my emotional and physical post surgery needs. A few months before surgery I went through 6 breakups (I’m poly). One was a 13 year marriage, three others were long term

I also was starting to feel like I was getting on track for the life I wanted. I felt happy and like I could put down roots. It all got messed up. I’ve decided to restart my life. I’m in my thirties and I’m moving, going back to school, everything I can do to have a new start to get away from everything

I think there’s some similarity with how you’re feeling and how I was and am feeling. I won’t lie I’m in an enormous amount of therapy and a year later I still don’t have a lot of solutions. But if you want to talk to an understanding person who maybe has some common emotional weight please DM me

My ex spouse and I used to walk places together when we were young. An hour wasn’t all that uncommon. The instant they got a car “no I don’t want to walk”. Yeah we can walk 20min to our destination but why do that when they could spend 5min getting the car ready, 10min driving, 15min being pissed while trying to find parking, then 5min walking because that’s the closest parking space to the destination. Blew my mind, years of trying to talk them into walking with me again, never worked

What’s going on with lemmy.world?

I’m in this boat and I have a good job so don’t need the cash. I mostly just want people to show up to a party I host and talk to each other but not to me lol